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Why you shouldn’t have a work wife/husband

Posted by on April 29, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Why you shouldn’t have a work wife/husband

I met with a client who was continually distracted by the going ons of two colleagues who sat near her. It was daily whisperings, giggles and flirtations. They were a pair referred to affectionately and not so affectionately as Mr. and Mrs. A work wife and a work husband. They were both about the same age. He was unremarkable and she was blonde and willowy. Though it isn’t fair to say he was unremarkable. He is getting married in three months. At first it looked innocent and fun. Work can be boring and they giggled the day away. There was...

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How do you know what your ideal job is?

Posted by on April 28, 2017 in Anxiety, Depression, Stress | 0 comments

How do you know what your ideal job is?

What would an ideal job be like? And more importantly what is it? There is a lot of hype out there about finding the ideal job. The current view is you simply must have a driving passion that consumes you. If you don’t have this overarching passion you will be a loser. There are numerous career tests to tell you what that ideal job is and it almost guarantees you will be successful. Do what you love and the money will follow. I don’t believe this. It’s not passion it’s something else. I watched a woman come into a job announcing that she “on...

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How to talk to an IMPOSSIBLE person

Posted by on April 14, 2017 in Anxiety, Couples Counseling, Depression | 0 comments

How to talk to an IMPOSSIBLE person

You know the anxious feeling you get when you know that you have to talk to that impossible person in your life? My boss, spouse, mother-in-law best friend sometimes they can be completely impossible! And yet you have to talk to them and it is draining and they never listen. It feels overwhelming and you think about all the things you want to say. But somehow the person never stops talking! So, you interrupt or shut down and that doesn’t give you what you want either. You just want to have a conversation. I’m going to give you a...

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What kind of therapy is right for me?

Posted by on December 18, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

What kind of therapy is right for me?

Ever wonder what kind of therapy would be the best suited to you? The following is a table of client personality traits that guide a therapist in choosing the kind of therapy that would work for the client TYPE OF THERAPY SELECTIVE PATIENT VARIABLES Adapted from: Novalis PN, Rojcewicz SJ, Peele R. Clinical Manual of Supportive Psychotherapy. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press, Inc., 1993. PSYCHODYNAMIC Chronic sense of emptiness and underestimation of self worth Loss or long separation in childhood Conflicts in past relationships...

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Finding Hope when you feel despair

Posted by on December 8, 2016 in Anxiety, Depression, Stress | 0 comments

Finding Hope when you feel despair

People are experiencing a lot of stress, anxiety and depression. Some events are reasonably characterized as “awful” and it doesn’t help to say it’s not so bad when the answer back is a resounding YES! What you need is a place to share it (misery Loves Company).  To begin to solve a problem you need validation either from yourself or someone else. Most of us are not built to process extreme distress, shock, or suffering with pure reason. What I mean by process it is you need to first let the feeling happen. ...

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A prescription for rage and anxiety

Posted by on November 26, 2016 in Anxiety, Depression | 0 comments

A prescription for rage and anxiety

“I felt myself change but I couldn’t stop it and really I didn’t want to. I screamed and cursed.  Rage is when you have too much anger” Raging is an emergency alternative; when talking doesn’t do it when holding it in doesn’t do it when walking away doesn’t do it when you can’t relax when no one get it.   When it happens, you may not be aware of what you are doing and saying.  Severe sadness and irritation are signs that your personal goals are being blocked and you think that these...

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A Fast Checklist for Anxiety

Posted by on January 28, 2016 in Anxiety, Stress, Uncategorized | 0 comments

A Fast Checklist for Anxiety

Here is a list of the 4 main forms of anxiety that too many people suffer with. It is important to recognize anxiety symptoms and get help. Take the anxiety test if you suffer from any of the following: Social Anxiety Disorder SAD, Generalized Anxiety and Panic Attacks Social Anxiety Disorder SAD • Fear that you are being judged • Worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself in front of others • Concern that you’ll offend someone • Intense fear of being, interacting or talking with strangers • Fear that others will notice that...

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How do I know if I am depressed? A fast check list

Posted by on January 27, 2016 in Depression, Stress, Uncategorized | 0 comments

How do I know if I am depressed? A fast check list

If you are wondering if you are depressed please read down this list to find out the symptoms of depression. Then look at how much one or several of these symptoms are affecting your life. If you would like to take a depression test please take my depression test on my website under the tab depression. Difficulty concentrating, running late, remembering details, and making decisions Exhaustion and decreased energy You feel of guilty, worthless and/or helplessness Feelings of hopelessness, sadness and/or pessimism Insomnia, early-morning...

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Finding passion in a scattered world

Posted by on January 25, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Finding passion in a scattered world

Share Everyone says follow your passion and all kinds of wonderful will follow. But what do you do when you don’t know what your passion is? How do you begin to know yourself better than you do right now? The first difficulty is how you listen to yourself. We have something called intuition. It is a very quiet voice and we usually ignore it because we don’t hear it. Part of it is the way it is communicated. It is often rapid and doesn’t contain a lot of details. There are three ways intuition can speak to us. Through our thoughts, feelings...

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Not-Enoughness

Posted by on January 14, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Not-Enoughness

Self-esteem or confidence is self-knowledge. How much you know about yourself. Looking at self-esteem, if you feel like you are not enough raises two questions. Have you really taken a good inventory of who you are and what you can do and where do you think you are lacking? How you take Inventory Some people start with a zero sum base. They compare themselves to other people and come up with the idea I am less then. If someone else is recognized as doing well it must be because I don’t measure up (ouch!) This feeling is neither generous to...

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