The internet has not taught us how to research it has taught us to remain in a state of searching. Before we go to a restaurant we Google, yelp etc. We are relying on opinions of strangers who may or may not be truly strange in their opinions. And when we amass all this information which can take a significant amount of time, we sit in a whirling dervish of limitless choices! It can be anxiety provoking. And for some people this is how they...

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We are going to go over. WHY this has happened, WHY NOW, and WHAT MIGHT HELP.   You have relentlessly pushed and pushed and pushed yourself for 12 or 13 years to gain a prestigious career and here you are….realizing there’s no end in sight. In today’s world it feels like you have to push and push and push yourself for 6 or 10 more years before you can relax.  You feel burned out and worn out and can’t get the motivation up to...

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The other day I was to talking to a client who was fighting with feeling anxious. And what she noticed is the more she fought it the more thoughts came to her head as to why she should be afraid, very afraid. And soon she was in a mad whirling dervish of what could, might, maybe, could happen. When clients come into therapy they often have a long grocery list of emotions they do not want to have: sadness, anger, fear, loneliness, insecurity and...

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What do you do when you are too depressed or anxious to change what is happening in your life? You see other people accomplishing things and you are stuck in the same place. Many people would like to believe that if I close my eyes and wish real hard it will come true. And in defense of these actions they call it a positive attitude. And when they really don’t want to get off the coach they defend themselves by saying “don’t you believe in...

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Are you Waiting for things to get Better?  Be honest for a moment, when you think of the good things you are trying to create and manifest in your life right now, is there anything you’re “waiting” for? Perhaps you’re waiting until you get more clarity on your purpose before you start the business you’ve wanted to start. Maybe you already have a business and you’re “waiting” for clients to come...

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  One thing that I find frustrating is when people come into psychotherapy to ask what is it about them that makes people react the way that they do. People believe that when other people react they caused it. You walk into the office and your boss yells at you. You believe that the only thing that other person your boss is responding to is you. After all you are receiving the fall out. They are yelling at you about the project you worked...

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