Don’t judge yourself by what other people did to you

Don’t judge yourself by what other people did to you

  A lot of people believe that when other people react they caused it. That some people have the kinds of personality that you can predict how the room will react. Or they look for patterns to support this idea. One thing that I find frustrating is when people come into therapy to ask what is it about them that makes people react the way that they do. Not to burst any bubbles here but most people are thinking about themselves and I have...

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Your word of honor, is it really?

Your word of honor, is it really?

It became an ethical question that I had to answer.  My lover just came out of the dorm.  I was 18 and my first lover was coming out of the dorm.  He didn’t see me but I saw him.  And I remembered how over the weekend he handed me a shirt and said “you left this.”  I threw it back in his face and said “I didn’t! “  I then walked down the highway and hitched a ride back to campus in a state of shock.  You see the shirt wasn’t mine, it belonged...

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