You spend time with people you don’t like or you avoid people out of fear

You spend time with people you don’t like or you avoid people out of fear

How do I put up with these people how can I approach the people I fear? You first need to go inside yourself and find out the answers to these questions. Where does the dislike come from? What are you basing it on? Is this a gut reaction or have you put some thought into it. I’m going to make some suggestions on how to start liking more people and we are going to take a look at what influences you to dislike them in the first place. Let’s start...

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Don’t judge yourself by what other people did to you

Don’t judge yourself by what other people did to you

  A lot of people believe that when other people react they caused it. That some people have the kinds of personality that you can predict how the room will react. Or they look for patterns to support this idea. One thing that I find frustrating is when people come into therapy to ask what is it about them that makes people react the way that they do. Not to burst any bubbles here but most people are thinking about themselves and I have...

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Now is the Winter of our disconnect

Now is the Winter of our disconnect

Many people experience depression during the winter but does it have to be like this? There are certain steps that we can take to beat off the winter blues. Some that come to mind are things that you do physically like getting rest, exercise and eating right.   It is also important, even if you don’t want to go out in the cold to be social. Though I prefer movies, music a good book! Some people even sit under sun lamps. But you know all of this...

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I’m finding myself have you seen me?

I’m finding myself have you seen me?

Having it all is a useless idea frantic enthusiasm and over-hyping who you are is the new way of being.  I am annoyed at websites promising to give you your every heart’s desire.  No one has figured out how to do that and the hubris that goes into that promise is ridiculous. Sit emptor caveat. You cannot have it all because you will always think of something new to add to the list.  All is not a finite number in this case...

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An hour a day keeps the blues away how to really spread holiday cheer.

An hour a day keeps the blues away how to really spread holiday cheer.

The other day I took my love to see Pippin for his birthday. Big mistake not that the show wasn’t wonderful but we were in the middle of Times Square with hundreds of tourists shuffling along.  Basically a New Yorker nightmare. I needed a blast of happiness fast!  Especially because I haven’t done my holiday shopping yet and I am heading into more crowds.  So I started to research the most effective ways to forget your...

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