The Pain of not jumping in
You have a decision to make and you are frozen. It feels too high and it feels too far and what if you were to fail. So you choose a different kind of failure. The wait and see kind. But it doesn’t feel safe. Your muscles are tense and your mind is racing. So you stay in an unhappy limbo doing nothing for fear of doing anything. You even come up with silly superstitious ideas that you will see a sign to let you know what you should do! And there are supporting philosophies and self-help groups that support this. Don’t do it do something else.
Is this happening in your life? If you just hold back a little bit, just prepare less, practice less, study less, and plan less – that you’ll be able to have a real reason for not hitting your goals. You will always be content knowing you have potential. You won’t have to risk putting yourself on the line completely. You won’t get rejected. You can hide. But you will hide in pain
I remember when I was a little girl waiting to dive off the high diving board in the public pool. One boy panicked and being kids some of us had already started to climb up the ladder for our turn. Well we all had to climb down and I remember getting my fingers stepped on when I didn’t move fast enough
When I got to the top I considered all the things that could go wrong. But the embarrassment of climbing back down was way too much after seeing it already done I jumped! And I found that the stories I told myself weren’t true when I hit the water and came back up. My massive imagination had gone overtime (again!).
Of course sometimes my objections were better prepared. I wasn’t jumping off the diving board I was just stepping in the pool and the water might be cold!! And I knew it would be cold because it was cold yesterday (can things get more awful?). Now I have to admit I never worried about what other people would think about my swimming. I was more concerned with the shock of the cold water. How would I be affected not how they would be affected. So I did my slow dive, one foot at a time step by step and inch by inch. It was difficult and it convinced me I was right all along but at least I was in and swimming would get me warm. But that taught me there are sometimes when it will feel bad before it feels good.
This all revolves around taking action and doing the actions that you believe that you can take. Now here comes the obvious- everyone fails- now the not so obvious – the people who succeed get up and they learn. Sometimes the world wasn’t being fair to you and sometimes you missed something. It’s important to know which one it is and parse out what do I do next?
Sometimes doing it alone doesn’t make sense. You’ve decided not to ask for help, because if you did then you would have to commit, and then possibly fail. This is too big of a risk. But are you considering what you will lose by sitting on the sidelines? If you’d like someone to tag team with call to set up a free consultation at (917) 456-4127 I can show you how to move forward.