How do I put up with these people how can I approach the people I fear? You first need to go inside yourself and find out the answers to these questions. Where does the dislike come from? What are you basing it on? Is this a gut reaction or have you put some thought into it. I’m going to make some suggestions on how to start liking more people and we are going to take a look at what influences you to dislike them in the first place. Let’s start...

Terror’s that stop you- You are scared that people will reject you if they know how you really feel and who you really. You are so scared of rejection and ending up alone that you would rather swallow your feelings and put up with some abuse than take the chance of making anyone mad at you You are afraid of angry feelings or conflicts with people. You may believe that people should not fight or more to the point you should not fight. You are a...

We are going to go over. WHY this has happened, WHY NOW, and WHAT MIGHT HELP.   You have relentlessly pushed and pushed and pushed yourself for 12 or 13 years to gain a prestigious career and here you are….realizing there’s no end in sight. In today’s world it feels like you have to push and push and push yourself for 6 or 10 more years before you can relax.  You feel burned out and worn out and can’t get the motivation up to...

There are two situations where this happens. Sometimes you have certain responsibilities for instance a job where you don’t have a choice. And other times it is when you feel pressured to say yes when you really mean no. with family or friends If it happens often enough you can build up resentments and feel as if you are taken advantage of and unappreciated It feels like there is no choice but there is. It feels as if you are powerless which...

The other day I was to talking to a client who was fighting with feeling anxious. And what she noticed is the more she fought it the more thoughts came to her head as to why she should be afraid, very afraid. And soon she was in a mad whirling dervish of what could, might, maybe, could happen. When clients come into therapy they often have a long grocery list of emotions they do not want to have: sadness, anger, fear, loneliness, insecurity and...