How to talk to an IMPOSSIBLE person

How to talk to an IMPOSSIBLE person

You know the anxious feeling you get when you know that you have to talk to that impossible person in your life? My boss, spouse, mother-in-law best friend sometimes they can be completely impossible! And yet you have to talk to them and it is draining and they never listen. It feels overwhelming and you think about all the things you want to say. But somehow the person never stops talking! So, you interrupt or shut down and that doesn’t...

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CBS’s Marriage Sabbaticals should be called what they are – a separation

CBS’s Marriage Sabbaticals should be called what they are – a separation

Talk about putting lipstick on a pig!  CBS recently aired  Love on the Rocks? Some Couples Solve Problems With ‘Marriage Sabbaticals’ where couples take a break from each other for three months and live like their single. I couldn’t disagree more with this philosophy.of couples counseling.  Avoiding a problem doesn’t make it go away.  Especially during the first year of marriage there are a lot of ups and downs.  There are many adjustments and...

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You have to keep house like Martha Stewart, parent like Donna Reed, work like Sheryl Sandberg, and look like Jennifer Anniston

You have to keep house like Martha Stewart, parent like Donna Reed, work like Sheryl Sandberg, and look like Jennifer Anniston

We do not value our families as much as we value prestige and money.  In other words the opinion of others is more important than asking ourselves what we want  When a woman starts thinking about having children, Sheryl Sandberg said, “she doesn’t raise her hand anymore … She starts leaning back.”  So how bad would laid back be?  It sounds like a criticism to think about children. That by not raising our hand we are doing something wrong! What...

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Seeking perfection in someone else : The Soul Mate Trap

Seeking perfection in someone else : The Soul Mate Trap

When I am doing couples counseling or talking to single people who are dating an idea comes up repetitively. Each partner wants to find their soul mate. And when they find that person it will be electric! Our society has created an illusion of an instant sense of knowing. I will know when I see them. A soul mate will fill all your desires and instantly know what you need (if they really love you) its chemistry if it’s real it will just be there...

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