Why you shouldn’t have a work wife/husband

Why you shouldn’t have a work wife/husband

I met with a client who was continually distracted by the going ons of two colleagues who sat near her. It was daily whisperings, giggles and flirtations. They were a pair referred to affectionately and not so affectionately as Mr. and Mrs. A work wife and a work husband. They were both about the same age. He was unremarkable and she was blonde and willowy. Though it isn’t fair to say he was unremarkable. He is getting married in three months....

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How do you know what your ideal job is?

How do you know what your ideal job is?

What would an ideal job be like? And more importantly what is it? There is a lot of hype out there about finding the ideal job. The current view is you simply must have a driving passion that consumes you. If you don’t have this overarching passion you will be a loser. There are numerous career tests to tell you what that ideal job is and it almost guarantees you will be successful. Do what you love and the money will follow. I don’t believe...

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How to talk to an IMPOSSIBLE person

How to talk to an IMPOSSIBLE person

You know the anxious feeling you get when you know that you have to talk to that impossible person in your life? My boss, spouse, mother-in-law best friend sometimes they can be completely impossible! And yet you have to talk to them and it is draining and they never listen. It feels overwhelming and you think about all the things you want to say. But somehow the person never stops talking! So, you interrupt or shut down and that doesn’t...

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What kind of therapy is right for me?

What kind of therapy is right for me?

Ever wonder what kind of therapy would be the best suited to you? The following is a table of client personality traits that guide a therapist in choosing the kind of therapy that would work for the client TYPE OF THERAPY SELECTIVE PATIENT VARIABLES Adapted from: Novalis PN, Rojcewicz SJ, Peele R. Clinical Manual of Supportive Psychotherapy. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press, Inc., 1993. PSYCHODYNAMIC Chronic sense of emptiness and...

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Finding Hope when you feel despair

Finding Hope when you feel despair

People are experiencing a lot of stress, anxiety and depression. Some events are reasonably characterized as “awful” and it doesn’t help to say it’s not so bad when the answer back is a resounding YES! What you need is a place to share it (misery Loves Company).  To begin to solve a problem you need validation either from yourself or someone else. Most of us are not built to process extreme distress, shock, or suffering...

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