When I do this I am not thinking.  I don’t mean I am not thinking clearly or I am confused.  I mean other than an actual rush going through my body and a sinking feeling that is the only thing that happens to me. It’s like I am jammed up and I just can’t say no when I want to.  That is what a client told me have you ever felt this way?  It is what anxiety is.  Most people try to think their way out of this. Since my client noticed he wasn’t...

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  We place ourselves on hold until we do something wonderful.  We do it because we are chasing life instead of living it. Until that happens we are living on potential and living as if we were constantly operating on default.  I will be enough when I make enough money, when I have a relationship when I am in school etc. When I was younger I calmed my anxiety down by assuring myself that I had potential and one day someday the world would know...

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Having it all is a useless idea frantic enthusiasm and over-hyping who you are is the new way of being.  I am annoyed at websites promising to give you your every heart’s desire.  No one has figured out how to do that and the hubris that goes into that promise is ridiculous. Sit emptor caveat. You cannot have it all because you will always think of something new to add to the list.  All is not a finite number in this case...

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What job would give you goose bumps in the morning?  In your mind’s eye what is something that you are willing to go to hell and back for?  It is that thing that you dismiss as unpractical. That thing that would give you purpose and joy! What thing creates a longing that sometimes hurts when you think of it? That one – that crazy stupid red carpet dream Remember this is your dream and no one else. Don’t try to justify...

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You’re going to the Holiday feast and it won’t be just one.  Let’s face it you are going to party until you groan out of bed on January first!  That’s quite a few meals and drinks away and I don’t know about you but I have a wedding dress to fit into so I do not want to tip the scales or miss a party in the next few months.  So what can I do here are three wise suggestions. Think About It Do you want to...

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I had a strange notion of what gratitude was.  Whenever I thought of gratitude I remembered my mom yelling at me during my teens that I didn’t appreciate anything.  Carrying that forward I missed the point of what gratitude was. I got it mixed up with feeling guilty that I had things.  Fast forwarding to today what I have noticed about gratitude is that it is more about you then anything else. When you look around and notice...

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