One thing that I find frustrating is when people come into psychotherapy to ask what is it about them that makes people react the way that they do. People believe that when other people react they caused it. You walk into the office and your boss yells at you. You believe that the only thing that other person your boss is responding to is you. After all you are receiving the fall out. They are yelling at you about the project you worked...

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We all have them in our lives sometimes we call them friends, BFF, Mom or my all-time favorite supervisor. We all know when we have been bashed. It is a sinking angry, annoyed feeling that you get in the pit of your stomach. I have heard some clients say it feels like having a welcome mat on my back that says step on me. Sometimes it feels like someone just sucked the life out of you. Or you get angry but somehow that feels helpless to. It...

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                I have four openings left before my private practice is filled and I want to work with a very specific type of client. The coaching would last for 12 weeks just through the spring. You are someone who has specific goals that you want to accomplish by the end of that 12 week period. During these 12 weeks you will create a vision, find the steps to get there and the things that stop you then...

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  A lot of people believe that when other people react they caused it. That some people have the kinds of personality that you can predict how the room will react. Or they look for patterns to support this idea. One thing that I find frustrating is when people come into therapy to ask what is it about them that makes people react the way that they do. Not to burst any bubbles here but most people are thinking about themselves and I have...

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Many people experience depression during the winter but does it have to be like this? There are certain steps that we can take to beat off the winter blues. Some that come to mind are things that you do physically like getting rest, exercise and eating right.   It is also important, even if you don’t want to go out in the cold to be social. Though I prefer movies, music a good book! Some people even sit under sun lamps. But you know all of this...

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We do not value our families as much as we value prestige and money.  In other words the opinion of others is more important than asking ourselves what we want  When a woman starts thinking about having children, Sheryl Sandberg said, “she doesn’t raise her hand anymore … She starts leaning back.”  So how bad would laid back be?  It sounds like a criticism to think about children. That by not raising our hand we are doing something wrong! What...

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