Many people experience depression during the winter but does it have to be like this? There are certain steps that we can take to beat off the winter blues. Some that come to mind are things that you do physically like getting rest, exercise and eating right.   It is also important, even if you don’t want to go out in the cold to be social. Though I prefer movies, music a good book! Some people even sit under sun lamps. But you know all of this...

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We do not value our families as much as we value prestige and money.  In other words the opinion of others is more important than asking ourselves what we want  When a woman starts thinking about having children, Sheryl Sandberg said, “she doesn’t raise her hand anymore … She starts leaning back.”  So how bad would laid back be?  It sounds like a criticism to think about children. That by not raising our hand we are doing something wrong! What...

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When I was younger and competing to get into schools and then competing to stay in them I thought there would be a moment when I had arrived when It happened. I wasn’t quite certain what it was but what it would mean is that everything would become effortless. I think you see the handwriting on the wall faster than I did. When I proved myself I had just thrown myself in a bigger pond and the cycle began again. But what happens over time is that...

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When I do this I am not thinking.  I don’t mean I am not thinking clearly or I am confused.  I mean other than an actual rush going through my body and a sinking feeling that is the only thing that happens to me. It’s like I am jammed up and I just can’t say no when I want to.  That is what a client told me have you ever felt this way?  It is what anxiety is.  Most people try to think their way out of this. Since my client noticed he wasn’t...

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Having it all is a useless idea frantic enthusiasm and over-hyping who you are is the new way of being.  I am annoyed at websites promising to give you your every heart’s desire.  No one has figured out how to do that and the hubris that goes into that promise is ridiculous. Sit emptor caveat. You cannot have it all because you will always think of something new to add to the list.  All is not a finite number in this case...

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There has always been a debate of which comes first having an emotion or a thought. Which one happens first? I vote for the feeling. If I am walking home late at night and I sense someone is coming up behind me very quickly my heart goes double time and I feel startled out of whatever thoughts I had and a little apprehensive (I live in NYC).  Then a thought comes up like why are they increasing speed and all that? That’s the beginning...

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