What job would give you goose bumps in the morning? In your mind’s eye what is something that you are willing to go to hell and back for? It is that thing that you dismiss as unpractical. That thing that would give you purpose and joy! What thing creates a longing that sometimes hurts when you think of it? That one – that crazy stupid red carpet dream Remember this is your dream and no one else. Don’t try to justify...
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For many it becomes a lifestyle. I recently sat with a client who insisted her ability to have a social life and be a professional in her field was completely reliant on looking like she had it all together. The fake it till you make “syndrome.” But the problem with that is after a while you feel like an imposter, because deep down you are waiting to get caught. You are waiting for the world to notice that you aren’t who you say are. So,...
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In the last days of summer sit back and breathe. Even better have some fun. We all push ourselves and often people don’t realize that the pressure is breaking them down. This breakdown is often shown through anxiety and depression. Anxiety is often expressed by tremendous worry over what hasn’t been done. Depression is looking at what has been accomplished and not feeling satisfied or able to complete what needs to be one. Americans work...
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You have a decision to make and you are frozen. It feels too high and it feels too far and what if you were to fail. So you choose a different kind of failure. The wait and see kind. But it doesn’t feel safe. Your muscles are tense and your mind is racing. So you stay in an unhappy limbo doing nothing for fear of doing anything. You even come up with silly superstitious ideas that you will see a sign to let you know what you should do!...
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We live in a society that doesn’t tolerate fear, anger or uncertainty very well. And it is supported by our language! People want to be rock stars, masters of the universe and goddesses. With so much expectation I am surprised I roll out of bed in the morning. I have clients that tell me they are depressed or anxious or they need anger management. We use these terms off handedly without realizing the impact of what we are saying. What if you...
Read More“then you shouldn’t talk, said the Hatter.” ― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland Part II The other side is when you’re thinking clearly. It’s when you can take any situation and come up with several options to deal with it. If you can do that you are being flexible in your thinking and creative. We often trip ourselves up because we decide there’s only one way to do something or only one perspective. When you are stuck in being...
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