Many people feel bored, restless and think about life as being drab or depressing. When I say drab I mean that there is no point to anything, no purpose, color or feeling. Just one work day after another. This is why so many people rush to the bars for a little liquid courage If you think that life is empty you will feel bitter because it lacks meaning for you. You need an escape some way to release even if means oblivion. You have lost touch....
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I have four openings left before my private practice is filled and I want to work with a very specific type of client. The coaching would last for 12 weeks just through the summer. You are someone who has specific goals that you want to accomplish by the end of that 12 week period. During these 12 weeks you will create a vision, find the steps to get there and the things that stop you then we will remove those obstacles. I will be...
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Anger is not what you think it is Don’t repress it, get rid of it or throw yourself in it just notice the energy not the reason you feel angry but the actual energy and what it creates in your body. I am talking about the adrenaline rush that makes you see red! Become aware that the energy is lessening your intelligence and scope of view. Then remember that you can think even when you are upset. You have shut yourself down with the strength of...
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One thing that I find frustrating is when people come into psychotherapy to ask what is it about them that makes people react the way that they do. People believe that when other people react they caused it. You walk into the office and your boss yells at you. You believe that the only thing that other person your boss is responding to is you. After all you are receiving the fall out. They are yelling at you about the project you worked...
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There is a myth in our culture that needs to be exposed. I have seen many couples in couple’s therapy and there is this running notion that a lot of women have that they are there to improve or change their men. And the tool most often utilized is nagging! Women nag because they lose patience that the change is not happening fast enough. And this is one of the main reason I see couples come in for Couples Counseling. So, let’s look at...
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I just got a phone call that let me know that there is confusion over what Couples Counseling is or what it is for. He asked if I could see him that day or the next morning. I was booked for that time but I offered to see the couple in two days. And he said “no my girlfriend will be away for an extended time.” So, I was supposed to solve the problem in one session or at least that was what I imagined and I wondered what he had wanted in...
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