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Let’s be lazy
In the last days of summer sit back and breathe. Even better have some fun. We all push ourselves and often people don’t realize that the pressure is breaking them down. This breakdown is often shown through anxiety and depression. Anxiety is often expressed by tremendous worry over what hasn’t been done. Depression is looking […]
read moreThe Pain of not jumping in
You have a decision to make and you are frozen. It feels too high and it feels too far and what if you were to fail. So you choose a different kind of failure. The wait and see kind. But it doesn’t feel safe. Your muscles are tense and your mind is racing. So you […]
read moreWho should I be today? Psychotherapy tips for every day stress
We live in a society that doesn’t tolerate fear, anger or uncertainty very well. And it is supported by our language! People want to be rock stars, masters of the universe and goddesses. With so much expectation I am surprised I roll out of bed in the morning. I have clients that tell me they […]
read moreAre you Tired & Wired? Exhausted by life
When your day is filled with stress the side effects that you feel are feeling disillusioned, helpless, and problems seem insurmountable. It’s difficult to get the energy to care—let alone do something about your life. You keep hearing you had a bad day playing in your head over and over. It’s time to turn that […]
read moreIf only I had known __________ fill in the blank
A lot of us stop ourselves with that phrase. It is a moment of grand regret where we say if only and we let whatever it was slip away because we have chosen not to see an alternative. It is our get out of jail card free. So let me throw an enticing question at […]
read moreDo you believe in love at first sight?
Is this something that you believe in? That when you meet them there will be an instant recognition and a knowing, you will see them standing there and you will know and so will they that you are the one. Do I believe in this well no, but it happened to me so I should […]
read moreNew Years Resolutions for under achievers and the overwhelmed
So every year (almost) I sit down and consider making New Years Resolutions. I don’t write them down because I don’t want even paper to bear witness to the lies I am about to tell. I know the point is to improve you but first I have to get over that awful feeling that something […]
read moreHome For the Holidays (again!)
How do you deal with the Holidays? It’s that special time of year where you should feel ……and you should have….. You get to make the list I should feel happy I should feel joy, I should have more money for a better gift ….And then you are in a room where frankly you’re rubbing […]
read moreSeeking perfection in someone else : The Soul Mate Trap
When I am doing couples counseling or talking to single people who are dating an idea comes up repetitively. Each partner wants to find their soul mate. And when they find that person it will be electric! Our society has created an illusion of an instant sense of knowing. I will know when I see […]
read more“I don’t think…”
“then you shouldn’t talk, said the Hatter.” ― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland Part II The other side is when you’re thinking clearly. It’s when you can take any situation and come up with several options to deal with it. If you can do that you are being flexible in your thinking and creative. We […]
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